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Where to Draw the Line When Caring for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s Care in Dover NH

Your mother’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. After that diagnosis, everything in your life changed. You may have tried to be enthusiastic and positive about what to expect. You knew that being positive was going to be incredibly important for her.

Alzheimer's Care in Dover NHYou, your father, and other family members and friends had been worried about her for a while. Maybe you noticed her struggling with her memory for a year or more. At some point in time you encouraged her to visit her doctor. After numerous tests, it came back that she has Alzheimer’s.

Now you want to support her physically and emotionally.

It makes sense. You live just down the street from her. You have a part-time job, so you have plenty of time in your hands. After a while, though, things are going to become much more challenging for you. You need to set limits and know where to draw the line when caring for a loved one who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia.

Know your limits.

This is one of the most important things people overlook. When you don’t take the time to understand your limitations, physically, emotionally, mentally, and with regard to time, you will probably push beyond your limits over and over again.

This is going to amp up the stress you feel in life to your breaking point.

Don’t allow yourself to get to the breaking point; establish limitations and if your mother needs more care and support than you can offer, consider hiring a home care aide to help.

Think about safety.

As the disease progresses, the memory loss is going to begin impacting your mother more and more. It may reach a point where her safety is compromised. Unless you’re able to live in the same house with her and be there every single minute of every day, you need to think about other options to help keep her safe.

Having a home care aide there with her is one of the best options, but you can also supplement safety by including alarms, monitors, and other technological innovations that are specifically designed to promote safety for seniors.


Your mother is still lucid. She is still cogent. Now is the time to listen to her. Find out what she wants, not just for the next few months, but the years ahead. Talk about expectations and how the disease will progress.

When you’re able to listen to her clearly, you’ll have no doubt about what to do as the disease progresses and you won’t push yourself beyond your own limitations.

If you or someone you know needs Alzheimer’s care in Dover, NH, contact the staff at Atlantic Homelife Senior Care. We provide quality and affordable home care for many disabled and elderly loved ones in our community. Call us at 603-343-4434 for more information.

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Martha Berk, RN

Owner and Administrator at Atlantic Homelife Senior Care, LLC
Martha Berk has been a registered nurse specializing in geriatrics for more than 20 years. Her goal was to create a company that would allow seniors to stay in their homes and enjoy the home life they always had. She believes seniors should not have to give up the lives they have always known just because they need a helping hand. She is committed to help seniors maintain quality of life and live every moment to the fullest!

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