You have been close to your mother for many, many years. You live in the same town as her. She has been over to your house hundreds upon hundreds of times to assist you with just about anything you needed. When you had children running around, she was there to offer you some relief.
Now, though, as she’s in her 70s or 80s, she had a stroke recently. She has been hospitalized for several weeks, between the hospital and nursing home, but she’s getting closer and closer to being discharged and sent home.
Her doctor has admonished you to have the right support on hand for her.
She may have lost mobility in one side of her body. She may be facing a number of other physical challenges. You assume this is something you should be doing for her, but are you taking an honest assessment of the situation?
There are plenty of good reasons why you might not be the best person to help your mother during her recovery from a stroke. Here are just three to keep in mind.
Reason #1: You have no experience.
If you have no prior experience working with an elderly individual following a stroke, what makes you think you’ll know exactly what to do for your mother? There are going to be many questions and challenges you face as she works through recovery.
For example, your mother may be advised by her doctor to get exercise when she regains enough strength. How is she going to regain enough strength unless she gets some type of exercise? A lot of family members discourage various activities, including exercise, when their loved ones are recovering from strokes, heart attacks, and more.
Reason #2: What happens if you discourage exercise?
Exercise is the only way to strengthen the muscles in the body. The heart is a muscle as well. If your mother is not getting the exercise she needs, if she’s not being encouraged to go through physical therapy, even though it’s extremely difficult for her, how is that going to be beneficial? It won’t be.
Reason #3: She might not listen to you.
Even if you tell her to exercise and follow her doctor’s instructions, who says she’s going to listen to you? She may be adamantly opposed to certain things and since you’re just a family member, especially if you have no experience doing this for anyone else, she simply might not listen to you.
The best thing you can do for her right now is encourage home care support.
If you or someone you know needs home care to reduce hospital readmission rates in Rye, NH, contact the staff at Atlantic Homelife Senior Care. We provide quality and affordable home care for many disabled and elderly loved ones in our community. Call us at 603-343-4434 for more information.
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